All you have to be is yourself

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“Let go of who you think you are supposed to be and be who you are.”- Brene Brown

We all have a mental picture of who we think we ought to be at each stage of our lives.

“I should be rich and famous”.

“I am supposed to be a PHD holder by now”

“I need to learn how to speak with a foreign accent so I can do what he does”

We often find people trying so hard to live up to communal expectations.

Society says as an urban African female, you should be married and have your first baby before you’re 30. If you’re a not, it’s a sign that there’s something wrong with you.

“She’s probably cursed, or wasted her life when she was younger’ they’d say.

So people get on the marriage band wagon by all means.

Ignoring all cues pointing to clashes of interest, beliefs, value and purpose.

It seems the pressure is even worse for the men these days. Today’s man is constantly measured by his bank account and how he is able to convince the general public of ‘how much’ he’s worth.

The lousier you are, the more persuasive your pitch is to the opposite sex.

So some seek riches by all means. They lie, they cheat, they steal, they kill.

People are in relationships because of what they can get instead of what they can give.

Many have lost their sense of purpose. Why we are here. What value we give to our world. What problems we solve.

Why do we want to fit in? Because we crave acceptance and that’s only human.

However, acceptance at the risk of loss of identity is a journey in futility.

The vast majority of people in our world today are doing jobs that don’t fit them… they’re sacrificing their life and not receiving any fulfillment in return.

With so much opportunity, and so many possibilities, it can be overwhelming to know for sure what you’re supposed to be doing.

All we really have to do is garner the audacity to find purpose and live it.

If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.

Trying to do what everyone else is doing just to conform is a waste of your own unique abilities.

What are those things you think about when you’re alone by yourself that make you happy? What are your interests?

Don’t doubt your value. Don’t run from who you are

Wanting to be another person is a waste of the enigma that you are.

There’s so much to discover about yourself if you’d just take the time to search deeper within.

Accept that you are different and that is the first step to living a fulfilled life.

You don’t have to be what you think they want to see.

All you really have to be; is yourself.

Remember Freedom is Peace; Optimism is Nature; Action is always within reach. BE MORE!
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