Let love in

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“Love those who appreciate you, and appreciate those who love you.” ― Connor Chalfant

It’s Valentine’s eve and the accompanying frenzy is at its height!

Something that baffled me especially when I was much younger is how the menfolk (mostly) would reserve Valentine’s Day for that someone they had been eyeing, even if she had been resistant or hostile on many occasions previously. Funnier still is how the girl would suddenly become ‘nicer’ and more approachable towards Valentine’s Day so she could get the ‘Be my Val’ proposal and corresponding ‘spoils’

Would things be different if ‘Be My Val’ actually translated to ‘Spend the rest of your life with me’? And accepting meant ‘Yes’!

Would you still go on that dinner date? Would you still buy those gifts? Would you still accept the chocolates and flowers?

What really is Love?

We idealize it and develop unrealistic expectations about the nature of love, and what we hope to gain from it.

To the guy who isn’t interested in the people who are interested in him – who always wants the unattainable ones, the ones who seem like a challenge. What you call love is actually an ego boosting exercise.

To the girl who doesn’t give much thought to what she wants in terms of personality, but has a long list of physical qualities that she flat-out refuses to compromise on. What you call love is attraction/lust.

To the man or woman who gets angry with his/her partner for not reacting to him/her the way they planned for them to react in their heads. You only recognize love in the exact way that you give it out and so you expect to receive it in the exact same way as you give it.

You allow the ‘ordinary’ courtesies, tasks and gestures of affection that your partner does for you to go unacknowledged, because they’re not your chosen method of expressing love. What you call love, is narcissism.

Surely, love cannot be as hard as we make it out to be!

Value yourself. Open your heart to those who come to genuinely touch it.

Let Love in.

Remember Freedom is Peace; Optimism is Nature; Action is always within reach. BE MORE!

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