Let the stigma against menstruating women stop, please

BY RABI UMMI UMAR

Nature bestows unique characteristics upon creatures of all species. For humans, and particularly women, one such distinctive feature is menstruation, otherwise known as periods. This menstrual cycle often comes with an enormous amount of pain and discomfort.

Hence, I get aggravated when people, particularly men, downplay or dismiss the pain associated with periods. It has become all too common nowadays, and I often find myself wondering, “What is their thought process behind such disregard?” This disregard is part of what we have come to know as period stigma—the social, cultural, and emotional shame or embarrassment associated with menstruation.

Women typically experience menstruation for two to seven days a month, but they also face a range of challenges, including premenstrual syndrome (PMS), sadness, menstrual pain, depression, and post-menstrual depression. For these reasons, we deserve sympathy and support.

Menstrual cramps are painful sensations that affect many individuals before and during their menstrual period. The pain typically targets the lower abdomen and lower back. Women often experience additional symptoms, such as loss of appetite, nausea, diarrhoea, and more, which may last for at least three days, or even longer, depending on the individual.

Reports have shown that approximately 5% to 15% of individuals experience period pain so severe that it impacts their daily activities. According to the Cleveland Clinic, the figure could be higher due to underreported or unreported cases.

There are instances where I have witnessed men being insensitive towards the pain women experience during their periods. Sometimes, if the situation warrants it, I share my opinion; otherwise, my best option is to watch helplessly or move on.

Women are paradoxically both fragile and incredibly strong creatures, enduring immense physical and emotional challenges every month. This never-ending cycle, which results in the loss of an appreciable amount of blood, makes it particularly hurtful when someone dismisses or undermines the experiences we go through.

A genuine suggestion is that when it is that time of the month for your partner, sister, mother, or loved one, show your support with a thoughtful gesture. Be present for them, even if you cannot fully comprehend their experience. Make them feel seen and cared for. Do your research, take the necessary steps, and understand what works best for them. It makes a bigger difference than you might think.

Recently, there was a heated discussion on X (formerly Twitter) regarding PCOS—polycystic ovary syndrome, a hormonal disorder that causes enlarged ovaries—that left me stunned. Although I cannot recall the exact comment, it disregarded the severity of the condition and painted women as unhealthy, much like what happens with periods.

One piece of advice resonated with me from that social media parley: “Review your partner’s Twitter to gain insight into their thoughts before committing to a relationship.” I cannot stress enough how important this advice is, but it underscores the need to have people in our lives who will be there for us, especially in matters such as menstruation and PCOS, which are dictated by nature.

Imagine being with someone who does not understand, or worse, invalidates your experiences. I urge women to prioritize getting to know their partners well, particularly their emotional intelligence, before committing to a relationship.

Men should also step up and show support during menstruation. Instead of making insensitive comments, they can take the initiative to educate themselves.

Be a thoughtful brother, husband, father, or friend by learning about menstrual health and its effects. Offer emotional support and empathy, help with household chores and errands if needed, and encourage open conversations to bring an end to period stigma.

By doing so, and by being more considerate, men can create a more comfortable and supportive environment for the women in their lives. The world can be kinder to women—we deserve it!

Rabi Ummi Umar is an intern at PRNigeria and a student of Al-Hikmah University, Ilorin. She can be reached via [email protected].